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As some of you know, I came here for help and info on the RAW diet for my girls, mainly Casey. I was welcomed with open arms and shown the way but only one person stood in my way and it was no one on the forum but the man I married.
I was in for a long first month of feeding RAW and being harrassed endlessly on how I was going to hurt our dogs and make them sick, day in and day out. My hubby never once read up on RAW feeding. Never once did he read up on kibble and how carbs and the lot in bagged dog food is bad for carnivores i.e. our dogs...
We went round and round and round, every day at about the time I was to feed the girls. He had a very difficult time with Casey eating RAW chicken/meat and how she would never get used to it, SHE'S TOO OLD! yada, yada, yada... it was constant.
Well, have you ever gotten to the point where you just say fuck it and walk away from it all? I did it and it broke my heart! I cried as I could not take any more crap from him... I did the unthinkable and went to the store and bought a 50 dollar bag of TOTW kibble. *hides in horror* I was just sick of it and beside myself because I had no support here at home once the computer was shut down for the night. It is also the reason why I stopped coming for awhile because I couldn't face you guys and know that my dogs were eating kibble. *discust*
I did everything I could for my girls, I thought and I felt that I had lost the great battle that day I picked the kibble up. Heart sick is an understatement but all the harrassment went away. He was very pleasant to me but pleasant I was not. I did not talk to him. I had spent my 10th yr wedding anniversary alone in the woods with a 20 gauge shot gun on a cold rainy day. I had to swollow my pride and watch my girls eat this kibble. I had to watch as Casey laid on the couch digging at herself more and more and DH would tell her to stop but I kept my mouth shut! I watched as their poop became bigger and messier. I saw Casey's energy level die off. Ava's eye boogers came back and even worse, she got the skittles and they both got gas. The back yard became a mine feild! DH would say that the dogs don't like their food. I shrugged my shoulders. There was nothing I could do about it. My hands were tied. They had pretty much the best of the best in terms of kibble.
I was done with RAW but I ached to continue!!!
Well, I'm ashamed of giving into DH but something changed and he came to me yesterday afternoon and said, you know, I really hate to say it but I think Ava did better on RAW and I think you should start back up BUT Casey is TOO OLD to be fed RAW. Here we go again! I told him many older dogs are switched to RAW after years of being kibble fed and become accustomed to RAW and gain years back to their lives and vitality! You are doing a HUGE disservice to Casey by not giving her the best! *shuts mouth*
He goes on to say that he wants to do a food challenge and let Casey pick her own food. I said fine. *Me thinks she's had enough RAW for a month, I know she's gotta pick the chicken!!!* :biggrin: So I go to their freezer which hadn't been opened for almost two weeks and I get them a chicken to thaw and pick up the bowls of kibble that they had eaten for breakfast. I am praying to God that Casey will show him where the bear shits in the woods because I know Ava would do cartwheels for RAW.
So dinner time comes.
Here is the video of Casey chosing her dinner...
YouTube - 11/1/09 Casey Chooses Her Food...
With all that said, I believe DH saw the benefits of RAW in that month that I was feeding it to them but just couldn't get over it and accept that maybe it is what's best for them and that he was wrong. As you can see, he is participating in their feedings which he had never done before other than to harrass me and them while they ate. He was having trouble seeing me give Casey a whole piece of chicken so I have comprimized a bit and chopped it into hunks for her to where she'll still have to chew, chew, chew to get it down but I feel we're on our way even though I have to start all over again, atleast they aren't destined for bags of kibble after bags of kibble.
I'm not proud of what I did and I hope that I don't get an ear beating from you guys but I sure am happy that DH came to me and said to try again. It makes life easier, especially when he tells Casey to go ahead and eat her chicken. :smile:
And I just want to thank you guys for being here for me and listening to me when I was under such emense pressure from him. When I reversed psychology on him and gave up completely, I had hoped that it would be just a matter of time before he saw it my way and I believe it helped the girls and I in some way even though it set us back a bit. So thank all of you who have been here for the girls and I and supported us since we started. It means alot to me and I'll never forget all the kind words of encouragement you gave us! Hopefully, I will be able to stop posting on how hubby is derailing us in the future!
I was in for a long first month of feeding RAW and being harrassed endlessly on how I was going to hurt our dogs and make them sick, day in and day out. My hubby never once read up on RAW feeding. Never once did he read up on kibble and how carbs and the lot in bagged dog food is bad for carnivores i.e. our dogs...
We went round and round and round, every day at about the time I was to feed the girls. He had a very difficult time with Casey eating RAW chicken/meat and how she would never get used to it, SHE'S TOO OLD! yada, yada, yada... it was constant.
Well, have you ever gotten to the point where you just say fuck it and walk away from it all? I did it and it broke my heart! I cried as I could not take any more crap from him... I did the unthinkable and went to the store and bought a 50 dollar bag of TOTW kibble. *hides in horror* I was just sick of it and beside myself because I had no support here at home once the computer was shut down for the night. It is also the reason why I stopped coming for awhile because I couldn't face you guys and know that my dogs were eating kibble. *discust*
I did everything I could for my girls, I thought and I felt that I had lost the great battle that day I picked the kibble up. Heart sick is an understatement but all the harrassment went away. He was very pleasant to me but pleasant I was not. I did not talk to him. I had spent my 10th yr wedding anniversary alone in the woods with a 20 gauge shot gun on a cold rainy day. I had to swollow my pride and watch my girls eat this kibble. I had to watch as Casey laid on the couch digging at herself more and more and DH would tell her to stop but I kept my mouth shut! I watched as their poop became bigger and messier. I saw Casey's energy level die off. Ava's eye boogers came back and even worse, she got the skittles and they both got gas. The back yard became a mine feild! DH would say that the dogs don't like their food. I shrugged my shoulders. There was nothing I could do about it. My hands were tied. They had pretty much the best of the best in terms of kibble.
I was done with RAW but I ached to continue!!! Well, I'm ashamed of giving into DH but something changed and he came to me yesterday afternoon and said, you know, I really hate to say it but I think Ava did better on RAW and I think you should start back up BUT Casey is TOO OLD to be fed RAW. Here we go again! I told him many older dogs are switched to RAW after years of being kibble fed and become accustomed to RAW and gain years back to their lives and vitality! You are doing a HUGE disservice to Casey by not giving her the best! *shuts mouth*
He goes on to say that he wants to do a food challenge and let Casey pick her own food. I said fine. *Me thinks she's had enough RAW for a month, I know she's gotta pick the chicken!!!* :biggrin: So I go to their freezer which hadn't been opened for almost two weeks and I get them a chicken to thaw and pick up the bowls of kibble that they had eaten for breakfast. I am praying to God that Casey will show him where the bear shits in the woods because I know Ava would do cartwheels for RAW.
So dinner time comes.
Here is the video of Casey chosing her dinner...
YouTube - 11/1/09 Casey Chooses Her Food...
With all that said, I believe DH saw the benefits of RAW in that month that I was feeding it to them but just couldn't get over it and accept that maybe it is what's best for them and that he was wrong. As you can see, he is participating in their feedings which he had never done before other than to harrass me and them while they ate. He was having trouble seeing me give Casey a whole piece of chicken so I have comprimized a bit and chopped it into hunks for her to where she'll still have to chew, chew, chew to get it down but I feel we're on our way even though I have to start all over again, atleast they aren't destined for bags of kibble after bags of kibble.
I'm not proud of what I did and I hope that I don't get an ear beating from you guys but I sure am happy that DH came to me and said to try again. It makes life easier, especially when he tells Casey to go ahead and eat her chicken. :smile:
And I just want to thank you guys for being here for me and listening to me when I was under such emense pressure from him. When I reversed psychology on him and gave up completely, I had hoped that it would be just a matter of time before he saw it my way and I believe it helped the girls and I in some way even though it set us back a bit. So thank all of you who have been here for the girls and I and supported us since we started. It means alot to me and I'll never forget all the kind words of encouragement you gave us! Hopefully, I will be able to stop posting on how hubby is derailing us in the future!
